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Hi Monet!

Welcome to "Breaking the Good Girl Code: How Women Can Stop Self-Sabotaging and Start Leading."

Breaking the Good Girl Code isn’t just another newsletter — it’s a revolution. 

If you’re tired of playing small, over-apologizing, and putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own, this is for you. 

We’re diving deep into the hidden patterns of self-sabotage that hold women back, unraveling the myths that keep us stuck, and charting a bold new path toward authentic leadership.

It’s time to rewrite the rules — on your own terms.

Ready to step into your power, Monet? Let’s go!

🔥 Embrace the Chaos: Let the Mess Fuel Your Fire

A couple of weeks ago, I needed a moment ... You know, those moments where you wish the world would dissolve around you and you were left alone ... no responsibilities, no chores, no work, and even no joy — just pure quiet and nothingness ...

I was standing in my kitchen, surrounded by an ever-growing list of chores, a broken mug on the floor, and my laptop's screen blinking its judgment at me.

It was in that moment I looked at the candle on my counter, flickering, wax dripping down its sides like the tears I refused to shed. 

🥀 I felt like I was failing. Big time. 

🥀 Everything felt heavy. I thought I had it all together. Until I didn't.

🥀 My mind was cluttered. My heart was overwhelmed.

However, it was in this moment, in my wish for all the chaos fade away, that I realized ...

The chaos wasn’t a sign of failure; it was the slow burn of transformation gearing up.

 

Life's beautiful messes are like a burning candle. They glow, melt, and reshape us. 

Life is like a candle. 
Sometimes it burns brightly.
Sometimes the wax melts into chaos.
But it's always spectacular.

Embrace the mess.

Here's how:

✨ First, surrender to the chaos. Let it teach you. Messiness is where creativity and authenticity thrive. Let go of the unrealistic expectations.

✨ Second, celebrate little wins every day. Yes, even the tiniest ones.

✨ Third, release your mess. When the chaos feels overwhelming, take a deep breath.
See the mess as an opportunity, not a setback. Watch how it morphs into clarity.

Perfection is overrated. In fact, it doesn't really exist. We all have our own definition of "perfection," and things can always be better. Let it go.

It's the imperfections that tell our most authentic stories. Stop chasing. Start living.

Remember, each flicker of your being is fuel for your fire.
Burn brightly.
Embrace the chaos.
Let your inner flame shine. 🕯️ 🔥

 — Coach Monet 🌿

🕰️ The Slow Burn of Transformation

TRANSFORMATION.

We often think it needs to happen in a BLAST of fireworks.
A grand, sweeping overhaul that leaves nothing but NEW in its wake.

But the truth?
REAL change is more like a candle.
Slow.
Steady.
Intentional.

Here's the thing: when we rush for the BIG BANG moments, we end up exhausting ourselves.
We set unrealistic expectations.
We burn out.

Sometimes, we may feel like our lives or our careers need a complete makeover.
Quit our jobs, move, start fresh.

I get it.
Sometimes when I order my coffee, I use another name.
I play in the fantasy of another reality — full on Carmen Sandiago vibes.

Instead, we need to start small.
A single, simple change such as a morning ritual or something else that resonates with you.
One small act.
Over time, it will spark a shift in your mindset, open up new avenues for self-reflection, and gradually led you to approach life more authentically.

Don't believe me?
I am walking, talking, proof that it works.

My transformation wasn’t a BANG.
It was a gentle, glowing ember.

The power of the SLOW BURN simply cannot be overstated. ❤️‍🔥

Want to start your own?
Here are three simple actions you can take TODAY:

• Set aside five minutes each morning to breathe deeply and set your intention for the day.

• Choose one thing in your life that feels cluttered and simplify it — be it your workspace, your closet, or your calendar.

• Reach out to someone you admire and ask them ONE question about something they've changed for the good.

• BONUS ITEM: work with a coach ... ahem, Oh, Hi! Have we met, yet? If not, what are you waiting for!?

Remember, transformation is a journey.
Not a destination.

Let the glow of each small change light the path.
Step by step.
Breath by breath.
Let it guide you to a life that burns brightly with AUTHENTICITY.

💡 Bright Sparks: Quick Wins for Authentic Living

AUTHENTICITY is not a destination.
It's a journey.
One you can start RIGHT NOW with a single spark.

Here's the deal:
To lead your life authentically, you don’t need a grand plan.
Start with small intentional changes.
Like setting boundaries.
Or saying "NO" when you mean it.

Remember:
Authenticity is the DAILY practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.
So, what's your first spark going to be?

Take that first step.
Light your fire.
The world is waiting.

🌱 Cultivating Patience & Persistence: Grow Your Own Way 🌿

Patience.

It's the secret sauce that flavors every worthwhile endeavor.

Yet, in our fast-paced world, it's often the toughest to savor.

In personal growth, patience isn't just important; it's EVERYTHING.

It's that steady, quiet companion that whispers, "Keep going," when the going gets tough.

Think of your life as a garden.

Every intention, every dream, every action is a seed.

You plant them with hope.

You water them with action.

And then ... you wait.

Sometimes, you wait longer than you'd like. ARGH ... I know!

But trust me, when those seeds finally sprout, they turn into a breathtaking bloom of self-realization and empowerment.

Now, let's dig deep.

Here's a short exercise to help you cultivate your garden of patience:

1. Grab a notebook. Write down one area of your life you want to nurture.

2. List three small actions. Think of them as daily watering tasks — simple steps you can take every day to feed this area.

3. Reflect weekly. Every week, note how you've progressed. What needs more attention? What’s flourishing?

This is YOUR garden.

Tend it with care, patience, and a whole lot of love.

And remember, every great garden was once a patch of dirt. 🌼

🎨 Embrace the Chaos: Become Your Own Masterpiece

Life is CHAOTIC.
And that's its beauty.

Unpredictability is not the enemy.
It's the canvas.
The blank page.
The stage waiting for your dance.

We often get caught up in the illusion of control.
But what if ...
Instead of fighting the chaos ...
We EMBRACED it?

Here's a thought:
Grab a piece of paper.
ANYTHING you have.

Write down the first thing that comes to mind.
A word.
A doodle.
A spontaneous burst of creativity!

No rules. No judgments. Just YOU.

Take a deep breath.
Feel the freedom in NOT knowing what's next.
Feel ALIVE.

Someone near and dear to me recently shared her story. 
She left her job.
Felt lost. Not knowing what to do next.

How incredibly scary navigating an unknown void.

But in the chaos, she found her passion.
Art. Specifically, wet, muddy, messy, CLAY — yes girl!

We spent a lovely evening together, playing with art ... 

She let the colors spill.
Let the brushes dance.
No plan. No structure.

Her art became her sanctuary.
Her chaos became her masterpiece.

So, let's stop trying to fit into neat little boxes.
Let the messiness be our muse.

Chaos isn't something to FEAR.
It's something to CELEBRATE.

Your life.
Your art.
Your masterpiece.

✨ Reader's Spotlight: Real Stories from Women Like You

Meet Lauren.
She was the queen of self-sabotage.
Doubting every decision.
Questioning her worth.
Sound familiar?

Yup ... we've all been there.

But Lauren turned it around.
Turned her life into a testament to authenticity.

How did she do it?
LET'S DIVE IN.

Q: What was your moment of realization?

Lauren: "I was in a meeting.
I couldn't voice my ideas because I was too busy tearing them apart in my head.
That's when I knew I was my own worst enemy."

Q: What was the first step you took towards change?

Lauren: "I started small.
I gave myself permission to be imperfect.
I embraced my ideas, no matter how rough they seemed.
I let them breathe."

Q: Any advice for others battling self-sabotage?

Lauren: "Don't wait for everything to be perfect.
TAKE the leap.
You're not the only one struggling. Show others how to do it."

Lauren's story is just one of many.
It's powerful.
It's REAL.

Have a story to share?
We’d LOVE to hear it.
Submit your story and join the circle of women leading with authenticity.

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